When you take responsibility for yourself, your life will change.
– Heather Corinne Lang
Many of us are just “going through the motions” of every day life. We are doing what is expected of us, versus what’s truly in our best interests. From jobs to family, we are following the patterns of our ancestors. We may feel as if we are being “the adult” or “being responsible”, but are we? Are we doing what is needed only, without doing what we truly desire?
Are we blaming others for our unease, discomfort, imbalance or unhappiness?
Then we are not taking responsibility for ourselves. Yes, the bills may need to be paid, but if we are paying the bills with money earned in a job we don’t like, then we are unhappy and this is similar to blaming another for our unhappiness. We can take responsibility for ourselves in this situation by changing our attitude or changing our job. By changing one or the other, we are starting to take responsibility. We can see things more clearly. And begin to discover what we would rather be doing to earn income. We can look for those avenues and follow them. The path will lead where ever the most energy is placed, and if we put that energy into ourselves, then our life will change. That’s what the path is all about – taking responsibility for ourselves and doing what we are truly meant to be doing because that is our passion. And, then, it’s not work…it’s living our passion.
How do we take that responsibility?
First, it’s important to uncover your sources of unhappiness and why they are there. This is looking within you. Signs and signals include how you feel in any given situation with any person. Taking offense at something someone says about you, being defensive or sulking about and not speaking your truth. Speaking your truth is not being defensive. It is simply stating your beliefs, and moving on.
What makes you uncomfortable, imbalanced, uneasy and so forth…and why?
Does it make you uncomfortable to be around someone who appears stronger than you? More beautiful? More loving? Why do you feel this way? You can continue asking yourself in each situation what you truly feel deep within to reveal your issues. This is awareness of the issue. Once you have revealed them to yourself, you can accept them, remembering acceptance isn’t agreeing, it’s accepting what is so you can adjust it, or change it. Changing it requires inner work and understanding of why you feel that way. Perhaps you feel as if you need to be right all the time. Why? Were you punished when you were wrong as a child? Maybe, you were made to feel inadequate? Or you were not allowed to tell the truth of how you really felt? Any of these scenarios can cause us to react in a poor manner towards ourselves or others when faced with a similar situation. Accepting this is the reason why, it can be changed by changing your thinking.
“No one is perfect.”
“No one can tell me how I should be feeling.”; “I’m worthy of respect, honor and love.”; or many other statements repeated as often as you can. This is taking responsibility for yourself and not allowing another who is having their own issues to affect you in a manner that is harmful to you. Continuing this positive line of thinking with positive affirmations, intentions and statements throughout the day will help you to transform. Awareness. Acceptance. Adjustment. Just follow those Three-A’s to help yourself transform!
May you take responsibility for yourself and live your passion.
Have a De-LIGHT-Filled Day!