Sometimes we just need to adjust the definition of our morals. – Heather Corinne Lang
What are our morals? Our ethics? It’s what we believe is right. But, what is right? Is anything truly right? It may be right for you at that moment. It might be right for someone else but doesn’t ring true for you. Our morals and ethics boil down to what we believe to be true and are part of our values.
Beliefs are flexible, mutable and shiftable.
They are adjustable. As we move through life, meeting & communicating with more people, we have the opportunity to shift our beliefs, or our morals ethics and values. For instance, in some cultures and some homes, it is morally right to remove your shoes when you walk into the front door, in the foyer. It is believed it is the right thing to do. In others, you are to remove your shoes before you walk through the front door. Which is right? Is one wrong? Which do you believe to be true? Do your friends, neighbors and family feel the same way? Has it changed over the years? Why is it accepted to keep your shoes on in public buildings? It is claimed it’s for safety. Is it safer? Many ashrams, which are public, ask you to remove your shoes. They are not worried about safety. They ask you to do it for respect and cleanliness. Are ashrams right and your office building is wrong? Or vice versa?
I remember growing up
My mom insisted we remove our shoes when we entered the home to keep it clean. She valued cleanliness. Now my mom doesn’t care if you leave your shoes on. She still likes a clean home, but no longer thinks taking your shoes off is the only right thing to do. She even leaves her shoes on, because it makes her feet feel better. I tend to wobble back and forth with my own home. I still believe it will keep the home cleaner, but to me I would prefer someone feel comfortable in my home, and some people feel more comfortable leaving their shoes on. And I’m okay with that. I also like to be barefoot, but I have to agree, at times, my feet feel better when I’m walking around in my Birkenstocks outside or inside.
This same philosophy can be applied to deeper and more challenging ideas
Ask questions of yourself. Ask yourself what you believe to be true and decide whether or not you need to change your morals either based on where you are physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Are you right? Is the other person right? Does someone else have another belief completely different? Is this person right, then? Who are you with? Does this make a difference in what you believe? Where are you? Does this make a difference? Does another point of view based on similar or different circumstances or people feel better to you?
Because we have the power to change ourselves, it give us the power to change our beliefs
Remember, they are flexible and shiftable. So they can change based on the person you are with or the situation you are in. They are mutable, which gives you the ability to flow with whatever feels right to you at that time. And, if it feels right to you at that time, you can begin to see if it feels right in other future situations. Perhaps you will find you have changed your belief. Or you find your belief is not as stringent as you once thought. Perhaps you may find you have completely changed your attitude. Maybe, you will find you have awakened to the aspect that you are not always right and someone else is not always wrong. Questioning morals allows you to recognize where you are on your path is right for you at this time, and if someone else is in a different space, it is currently right for them, just different than you.
Our morals are a wonderful way to see differences in others, and accept them for what they are – differences
No right. No wrong. Just different. Giving ourselves the freedom to adjust the definition of our morals, ethics and values allows us the incredible flexibility to be open to all situations and experiences. This in turn lets us see them from a different perspective and viewpoint to once again see if we either need to change our beliefs or have already done so in some way. It allows us to be in the flow of life, as well as, be the flow.
May you give yourself the flexibility to adjust the definition of your morals.