Be Happy with Being You

BY Moira Hutchison


“Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are.”

~Ariana Grande

Being happy with you has a lot to do with tapping into your personal power. What does personal power mean to you?  For me it is very much tied in with feeling comfortable in my own skin.  When you feel comfortable with yourself – you are in alignment with your own core being and not selling yourself short or trying to be someone or something you are not.

An important way being happy with being you and further developing your own level of personal power is to keep your word and operate from your own level of integrity… For instance, let’s say that a colleague asks you to tell their boss that they met their quota (when they had not) so that they would receive their bonus – what would you do?

I am not writing here to judge what is right and wrong but if in the above example you would feel like a liar then it is important not to go along with something that you feel is out of integrity – in this way you stay in alignment with your own sense of truth and ultimately grow your sense of happiness and acceptance of who you are.

Operating from a sense of personal power means that you have integrity and operate with honesty and fairness in all ways.

This is also reflected in our relationship with our own self.  The best way to lose personal power and feelings of truth and integrity is to break a promise to yourself.  When you say “I will not eat any more cookies” and you are in perfect alignment with yourself, the next time you are offered a cookie you will confidently and easily say “No thank you”… but if you are not in alignment with your own self, you may be tempted and potentially “…just have one”.

A short time later you may find yourself in a cycle of beating yourself up, telling yourself off and feeling angry because “yet again” you have let yourself down – breaking your own word and it does not feel good.

What I am inviting you to do here is to check in with not only what promises, challenges and goals you are setting for yourself but also what languaging are you using when you do slip and repeat a not-so-healthy pattern or do the thing you promised yourself you were not going to.

Operating with personal power is an organic process which develops and grows stronger as you find your own level of integrity, truth and honesty.

If you say you are going to do something – let’s say you want to get up a wee bit earlier in the morning and exercise for 1/2–hr before breakfast… when the alarm goes off and you hit the snooze button (therefore missing the opportunity for exercise)… I would invite you to look for ways in which you could be physically active throughout your day and above all, acknowledge with unconditional love of self that you are doing the best you can today.