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Strength & Balance in Relationships

BY Heather Corinne Lang

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“Relationships require strength & balance.”

~Heather Corinne Lang

Our most intimate relationships require strength, as for those we deeply love, can and will go through ups and downs, causing the relationship to also do the same. It takes strength of the heart, mind & soul, to understand your partner may be struggling with nothing to do with you. This strength is your inner power to accept and show compassion & love while the energies between you may feel different for awhile. It is the recognition and belief everything & everyone changes, yet when true love prevails, the change is for the best. It is commitment, cooperation and compromise in many aspects during this difficult period of time. It is your awareness the other person requires your strength, support & love to work through their current challenges, whether in small gestures or larger ones. A hug, squeezing of the hand or even perhaps a listening ear. It is being the pillar of strength for the other, letting them know you are simply there, in all ways, always. It is being their cheerleader, letting them know you are there and they can and will get through it. This strength comes from the beautiful, intense heart & soul love you share in wanting what is best for the other, yet allowing them to battle their own struggles. It is recognizing life presents these challenges for increasing inner strength through healing and transforming from past hurts, angers, betrayals, deep sadness, and other difficult emotions. And, it is not only for the one going through it, but the one standing by. This strength stems from our own complete understanding and faith in the relationship. It is feelings of loyalty, love & unity in the relationship. In this way, it presents a balance when both feel the same way. When one partner goes through major, or minor, difficulties, exhibiting this strength is what helps to balance the relationship. Because more changes will come, and at times they will also be for you, and your partner will exhibit their strength for you.

I know relationships which have struggled through cancer, financial issues, infidelity and more. The ones I’m thinking about are stronger than ever. While one partner struggled or battled, the other showed unconditional support and love. I know relationships which have been challenged financially, and they both kept battling towards helping each other to persevere. Whatever the case, both partners do feel the pain and must recognize the other needs love, support and understanding. However, in many circumstances, it is one partner who is having the main issue, and the other, although hurting for the other, is the one who takes the role of support, compassion and deep understanding. These relationships I witnessed have the most beautiful symmetry in strength and balance. They work together out of complete respect, honor and whole-hearted love, mind, body & soul. It doesn’t mean there weren’t difficulties in the relationships, as we are all human and have internal issues which pop up under pressure, but they worked through them with faith, trust and belief for the best possible outcome for the person struggling and the relationship. One of these beautiful love stories comes from one of my sister’s. Her and her husband have had their ups and downs over the past 20 years, yet when one very challenging health issue afflicted my sister, they combined their energies in strength and balance and my sister is healthy again, as is their relationship.

Living in close proximity to anyone will cause disruptions as we mirror each other, providing reflections of traits we do not like with ourselves, and intimate relationships can be the most challenging of all reflections. Dealing with the intense emotions during a “normal” time in relationships is difficult enough, yet when the relationship is undergoing one of such incredible intensity due to dis-ease, imbalance or severe pressure from whatever the cause, is when Strength must shine through in all it’s grace and glory.

I also know relationships in which they separated. The reasons are numerous, yet it was what was needed. This strength and how one person shows it may be different and not be necessarily what we think is best, but it is what they believe is best. It is not always understandable at the time and it may not ever present any reasoning at all. It could be the couple doesn’t resonate at the same vibration, and therefore, one person is not able to provide the partner with the strength needed. In this case, the relationship will change in other ways. And, this is Divine timing in it’s most purest form, although could also be it’s most difficult, as Divine timing isn’t necessarily always easy. However, I do know Divine intervention is always what is best, whatever the future may bring. Again, not easy, but holding the faith that better times will come is the key.

Each relationship will be challenged, in multiple ways over time. It is called Life. And Life is here to present us with these challenges in relationships and in other ways. These challenges are of course to bring us lessons for awareness, awakening and transformation. Therefore, if you truly love another, and they truly love you, it takes work, strength and balance by both of you to persevere. It takes spiritual faith, trust & belief with understanding, compassion and support for each other and the relationship. Whether you stay together; separate for a time and come back together better because of the situation…or not. How do I know? It’s called over 4 decades of personal Life experience.

Namaste!

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